For Muslims in Berlin, the world of dating is gradually changing
From arranged detector, Berlin’s Muslim singles on the lookout for love must navigate a thorny landscape. We take a look.
Yet single Muslims must nevertheless learn to navigate between traditional mores – often including family pressure towards arranged marriages – and their own desires, set against the backdrop of Berlin’s highly open sex-and-love mainstream
Single Muslims must navigate between tradition – often including family pressure towards arranged marriages – and their own desires, set against the backdrop of Berlin’s highly open sex-and-love mainstream. Photo: Creative Commons / Diloz
Hamsa* is in love. The 17-year-old Gymnasium student, who came to Berlin from Syria as a refugee five years ago, dresses flawlessly – her hijab always matches her clothes, her make-up and nails are impeccable. Her parents are not particularly religious, but they find traditions and modesty extremely important: naturally, they were concerned about the effect that “Berlin freedom” would have on their four kids. Hamsa did have a rebellious phase, wearing miniskirts and refusing to wear the headscarf, but she has returned to her family’s values. While she had previously hoped to https://www.datingranking.net/nl/qeep-overzicht/ become a doctor, she now wants to be a dental hygienist, since it’s a more suitable profession for a woman. Last year, she started attending a Quran school.
About five months ago, one of her classmates introduced Hamsa to her older brother, 25-year-old Mohammed. Hamsa immediately told her parents that she would like to date him. “He has dreamy eyes and a very nice smile!” she giggles. Her parents – who are not only in an arranged marriage but are also second cousins, something fairly common in Muslim families but only after running blood tests to make sure the children wouldn’t be negatively affected – have met Mohammed and approved of the two young lovebirds getting to know each other; they do not mind the age gap.